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How to Stop Walking On Eggshells
even with the eye roll 🙄
💠Do  you ever feel like you're walking on eggshells with your older teen?
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đź’ If you wrestle with setting boundaries without power struggles or parent-guilt then chances are you're hitting up against one of these four obstacles
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For that moment BEFORE communicating a boundary
On a scale from easy-breezy to agghhhhhh, how is that moment right before you communicate a boundary with your older teen (or really anyone!).
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✨ Are you as care-free as Dr. Lisa Damour (see video).  Or is your experience more like that face I am making in the thumbnail 🤣?
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📽️ Here's a tool for those pre-boundary moments
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Before-School Friction?Â
đź’ Do you ever feel like a broken record during before-school conversations with your older teen?
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👉🏼 Check out this 4-minute video on how to co-create an effective script with ChatGPT
NOTE: Â the script isn't meant to be something you memorize and deliver word-for-word (though you can). Â It's meant to give you a steady starting place so you can stay anchored in what matters most.
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EVEN IF emotions start to run high.
Even though having scripts and frameworks can be incredibly helpful, we also know that ChatGPT isn't a substitute for having human-to-human, relationally-healthy conversations. Â But, having tough conversations, as a human being, with a human brain isn't always about knowing the scripts. Â
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Which is why, we'll be diving in with some of the essential skills for setting loving boundaries when we gather for 3 Keys to Set Loving Boundaries. Â Free Workshop. Â Live. Â Online. Â
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>> Click Here for more information and to register
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Conversation Replays?
👉️ Let's talk conversation replays.Â
Picture the scene: Â you've just had a boundary conversation, and now you are replaying it over and over again.
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Here's a tool you can try:
Instead of asking yourself, 'did I just mess that up?'
Try asking yourself: Â 'Did I lean into the right communication skill, or communication technique for that particular conversation?'
Because, our brains will seek to answer the questions we ask ourselves. Â So you may find that that small shift of asking yourself a different question will open up a lot of possibilities!
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đź’¬ Have you ever noticed yourself using skills that worked before, but they just don't seem to be working anymore? Â
For those 'in a flash' power strugglesÂ
đź’ Have you ever been in a conversation with your older teen, your young adult, where the conversation was actually going smoothly and then all of the sudden it moves into a power struggle you weren't expecting?
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👉🏼 Check out this 2-minute short for a technique on how to stay steady in those storms
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Boundaries without Bracing?
When we are bracing for boundaries, one of the things that may be happening is that somewhere in our personal histories, our brains linked up that another person's disappointment feels to our bodies like a survival-level event.Â
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✨ And the good news is, we don't have to unpack why our brains linked that up in order to be able to set boundaries more effectively.
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📽️ Here's a tool for those moments you find yourself tightening or bracing before you communicate a boundary.
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Triggered vs. Pinged: Â Why the difference matters
💠Have you ever felt that sudden surge of frustration when your teen rolls their eyes or snaps back? That’s the "Whoosh"—and by then, our "thinking brain" has often already left the building.
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đź’ What is the difference between being "pinged" and being "triggered"? When we understand the neurobiology of our own stress response, we can stay steadier in the storms of parenting
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đź’ There is a window of time between a "Ping" (the first sign of stress) and a "Whoosh" (a full-blown trigger). When we get triggered by a power struggle with our older teen, we lose access to our best parenting tools. If we catch the Ping, we keep our choice… check out the video for more.Â
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👉🏼 Check out this 1.5 minute short to find outÂ
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for Moms of Older Teens & Young Adults
They still need us, just not in the same ways.
This season of parenting asks so much of us:
To be steady when things get rocky.
To offer guidance without gripping too tightly.
To stay connected when the conversations get tense.
Even when the road feels unclear...
There is a path, and you don't have to find it alone.
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~Simona Vivi H
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