Conversation Replays?

👉️ Let's talk conversation replays. 

Picture the scene:  you've just had a boundary conversation, and now you are replaying it over and over again.

Here's a tool you can try:

• Instead of asking yourself, 'did I just mess that up?'

• Try asking yourself:  'Did I lean into the right communication skill, or communication technique for that particular conversation?'

Because, our brains will seek to answer the questions we ask ourselves.  So you may find that that small shift of asking yourself a different question will open up a lot of possibilities!

💬 Have you ever noticed yourself using skills that worked before, but they just don't seem to be working anymore?  

Before-School Friction? 

💠 Do you ever feel like a broken record during before-school conversations with your older teen?

👉🏼 Check out this 4-minute video on how to co-create an effective script with ChatGPT

NOTE:  the script isn't meant to be something you memorize and deliver word-for-word (though you can).  It's meant to give you a steady starting place so you can stay anchored in what matters most.

EVEN IF emotions start to run high.

Boundaries without Bracing?

When we are bracing for boundaries, one of the things that may be happening is that somewhere in our personal histories, our brains linked up that another person's disappointment feels to our bodies like a survival-level event. 

✨ And the good news is, we don't have to unpack why our brains linked that up in order to be able to set boundaries more effectively.

📽️ Here's a tool for those moments you find yourself tightening or bracing before you communicate a boundary.